The Retreat

Our Heart to Heart weekend offers an opportunity for personal reflection, writing, and private couple sharing. We are committed to creating a safe and supportive environment in which couples are able to nurture their relationships.  Lead couples share stories about our relationships to illustrate behaviors, attitudes and actions that keep relationships strong. We also identify habits and patterns that tend to weaken and sabotage relationships. The Heart to Heart weekend begins Friday evening and ends Sunday afternoon.

What Happens at a Heart to Heart Retreat? 

Group Time

During group time, lead couples share their relationship experiences.  We hope that, when you hear our reflections, you will be able to look openly and honestly at yourselves and your relationship.  Except for brief introductions Friday evening and an optional Sunday afternoon closing, participants are not asked to share with the group.  All of the sharing is done privately between each couple.   Lead couples will use group time to share personal stories on a series of topics, including:

  • Strengths, Masks and Fears

  • Perpetual issues and subjects for better understanding

  • "Spiritual Divorce"

  • Intimacy and Sexuality

  • Gifts our partners give to us

  • Communication

  • Forgiveness

Individual time

After each presentation by the couple leaders, you will each individually be asked to write two or three questions in a notebook for reflection.   You’ll have time to write about the questions and topic as they relate to your relationship.  Writing allows individuals the opportunity to explore a topic without the need to explain or defend their thinking.

COuple Time

At the end of the writing time, each couple meets together in a private space to read their partner’s written reflections and share thoughts and feelings about those reflections in conversation. Sharing provides the chance to listen and be heard. Repetition of this process throughout the weekend creates a rhythm of experiences where two people cultivate listening, understanding and being understood.

Ongoing Support

Heart To Heart offers the opportunity to create and participate in an ongoing couples support group. About a month after the weekend the leadership team facilitates a reunion. All participants are invited to attend. There, if you choose, you’ll have the opportunity to discuss your experiences with others, and also have the option of signing up to be a part of a monthly ongoing group. Most weekends have at least one on-going group. The continuing group isn’t for everyone, and there is no pressure to participate. You’ll be encouraged to try it if you are interested or think that it might be good support for your relationship.

Of the more than 400 couples who have participated in our weekends, between 40%-60% of those couples have joined ongoing groups. Some of these groups have been meeting monthly for a year, others have been together for three to fifteen years, and at least one group has been meeting since 1990! We believe this testifies to the powerful structure and impact of creating community to support and nurture couples and their commitment to each other. Participant’s lives and families are strengthened through Heart To Heart.